Bereavement Care Services
"Grief is how we love and remember people who have died."
Principles of Grief
Grief is normal, natural and healthy, however, the intensity, duration and experiences involved are unique to each person. Grief ebbs, flows and changes, often in surprising ways throughout a lifetime. We all have the capacity to heal from the death of a loved one. Grieving is how we do that. While grieving, it is normal to experience any of the following:
Shock and disbelief
Confusion or difficulty concentrating
Distraction, frequent thoughts about the deceased or what happened
Fatigue, even after getting enough sleep
Sleeplessness and anxiety
Nausea or tightness in the throat or upper chest
Changes in appetite
Waves of intense emotion; longing, loneliness, despair, anger, or sorrow
Thoughts about the meaning of life and one’s mortality
People who embrace their grief and have support in their grieving enhance their ability to adjust in a healthy way. EOLS provides a safe space where grief and grieving can be talked about, expressed, embraced and normalized. Whether in a group or one-on-one setting people know they can share their stories and they will be listened to with an open heart. EOLS is very sensitive to the community need for grief and bereavement support. We recognize that anticipatory grief can begin before the death of a dying family member or loved one, and that the timeline of grief is unique for each person. Our program involves:
One on One conversations with a Bereavement Care Provider
Facilitated Grief Groups
Peer to Peer
Writing and Journaling
During the holidays
Annual Candle Lighting Service of Remembrance
Referrals to mental health professionals
Training and support for care givers and hospice care professionals
Community outreach and education to schools, organizations and workplaces
Free resource materials and lending library
Children Grieve Too
Parents and caregivers are able to support children with their grief and sadness by understanding that grief is normal, natural and healthy.
Young people have an innate wisdom and drive that can help them find their way through difficult times.
Each child will have a different pace and way of finding a course through the grief process.
Children appreciate the truth. Use words appropriate to their age and understanding. Let them be a part of what is going on. They will trust you and not have to make up stories on their own which could be worse.
In general, children like to stay engaged in their regular activities.
Children are best supported in their grief when the adults in their lives get support for themselves. Find other people who can help you and your children. Let the school know what is happening so it may be supportive as well.
As they grow, children and teens are continually developing new skills and insights that help them gain deeper understanding of their grief.
When a child or teen speaks about wanting to die or taking his/her own life, it’s important to take it seriously.
Children of all ages are naturally curious about death and intuitively know that it is part of the life cycle. It’s helpful to answer their questions about death and grief in a matter-of-fact way from the earliest age.